love you (from afar)
a few weeks ago a close friend of mine came over from Nottingham. when i went to pick him up at the bus station on Tuesday he said "i have an open ticket, and i can stay til whenever." and i thought that was great because he is such a doll and i love having him around. so off we went - had dinner in town, when we got home we spent the rest of the night talking, gossipping, bitching about people we know. everything was lah-de-da! but by the evening of day two i was wishing that "til whenever" actually meant "two nights, tops". we'd had an argument, i lost my cool, but thanks to four little pill-sized wonders, all was back to fine and dandy by 10 o'clock that night.
throughout the rest of his stay i found out more about him, and him a little about me, and the lives we want to live, and the people we'd like to meet, and the boys we'd like to do, and among all this i found that we have very contrasting opinions about some things - women, for example. i found myself shocked when he said that he expected all mothers to automatically become full-time home-makers, and although i wanted to keep quiet in order to avoid another argument, i could not shut it for this one. long story short, we agreed to disagree. he ended up staying til Sunday afternoon, and now that he's back where he is and i am where i am, i kinda miss him a little bit. except i think that this is just how i like it... a long-distance friendship, with occasional hour-and-a-half phonecalls, and the rare weekend visits.
it's funny; we both love Will & Grace, and Jules has always fancied himself the Will to my Grace. except, unlike Will, he could never pass for straight and, unlike Will and Grace, we don't live together, and if i have my say, we hopefully never will. anyway, there's a reason why it's a sitcom... Grace can't stand Will's overbearing smothering and his incessant urge to put everything right, and Will can't stand her eating habits and laziness, and sometimes they fight, and lots of times they yell at each other, but by the end of the half-hour everyone's hugging and laughing again, and i am just not convinced that happens in real life, without the help of either very strong pharmaceuticals, or a patience that knows no bounds.
or maybe i've lived alone for too long, and am almost devoid of relationship skills.
throughout the rest of his stay i found out more about him, and him a little about me, and the lives we want to live, and the people we'd like to meet, and the boys we'd like to do, and among all this i found that we have very contrasting opinions about some things - women, for example. i found myself shocked when he said that he expected all mothers to automatically become full-time home-makers, and although i wanted to keep quiet in order to avoid another argument, i could not shut it for this one. long story short, we agreed to disagree. he ended up staying til Sunday afternoon, and now that he's back where he is and i am where i am, i kinda miss him a little bit. except i think that this is just how i like it... a long-distance friendship, with occasional hour-and-a-half phonecalls, and the rare weekend visits.
it's funny; we both love Will & Grace, and Jules has always fancied himself the Will to my Grace. except, unlike Will, he could never pass for straight and, unlike Will and Grace, we don't live together, and if i have my say, we hopefully never will. anyway, there's a reason why it's a sitcom... Grace can't stand Will's overbearing smothering and his incessant urge to put everything right, and Will can't stand her eating habits and laziness, and sometimes they fight, and lots of times they yell at each other, but by the end of the half-hour everyone's hugging and laughing again, and i am just not convinced that happens in real life, without the help of either very strong pharmaceuticals, or a patience that knows no bounds.
or maybe i've lived alone for too long, and am almost devoid of relationship skills.
posted by nu. at 5:33 pm
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